Fifty-One Years Ago Today: A Personal Memory

During my youth every kid in my Riverdale, Maryland neighborhood had a bicycle, and I was no exception.  I had lived there since I was four and all my earliest childhood memories originate there.  I’m sure I went through three or four bikes during those years, my first being a small Huffy with training wheels, and later upgrading to the most popular of them all, a Schwinn!  It was great fun to ride around the neighborhood and quite an adventure to travel several blocks or maybe even a mile or two powered by the spirit of adventure and freedom that a bike provided.  I remember my mother was quick to take bike privileges away whenever she felt discipline was needed, and I acquired my share of cuts, scrapes and bruises from those bike riding days.  I would often ride until I was exhausted and my body ached all-over.

Former Secretary of State Donald Rumsfeld in his biography perfectly shares the same feelings I once had in writing about this subject:

My red Schwinn, it seemed the most perfect thing in the world.  For kids in our neighborhood, our bikes were freedom.  We could go anywhere we wanted.  At least until it was time to come home. ~~ Donald Rumsfeld, Known and Unknown, A Memoir, p. 42

Schwinn Stingray

It was always the “in” thing, to have a clean, fancy, shiny bicycle.  Bicycles to us kids in those days were much like cars in the years to come; a necessary mode of transportation, much more so than they were to my own children.  I would often visit the local Schwinn bicycle shop not far away to look at, to dream of and to plan for bigger and more expensive models.  Sometime when I was about 13, I owned a Schwinn Stingray, with it’s high-rise handlebars, a 20 inch rear tire with a smaller one up front, a banana seat and a five-speed shifter on the bar between my legs.  I became pretty efficient at pulling “wheelies” with it and could travel half a block or more before losing momentum.  Eventually I would graduate to a 26 inch ten-speed before my days as a kid, riding bikes with my friends, would come to an end.

By-far one of the most memorable experiences of my life involved a friend I came to know when I was eight years old.  His name was Michael Andrew Casamento.  I was nine months older than Michael, the son of John and Theresa Casamento, and one of two children of a young Catholic family that had moved into the neighborhood sometime around the transition between 1960 and 1961.  As a coincidence, we would learn Michael was born in the same hospital as I in the little town of Clearfield, Pennsylvania, some 225 miles away.  In my research many years later I would learn the Casamentos, like my own family, had deep roots in that area.  Michael’s grandparents Tindaro and Maria had immigrated from Italy and settled in my family’s Pennsylvania hometown.

Michael and I became good pals and we would spend much of our time together biking around the neighborhood.  His house was just a few doors down and across the street from our apartment building on Ravenswood Road.  One day his parents gave him a brand new bicycle which, as I recall, was rather big for a boy his size.  Bigger than my own which was several inches smaller.

A short time later we were riding one Sunday afternoon April 30, 1961 just a couple of blocks from home.  It was a beautiful spring day, sunny and warm.  I had stopped momentarily near the crest of a hill on Rittenhouse Street to adjust the buckle on a shoe I was wearing.  I hopped back on and began peddling fast and furious in my effort to catch up.  A short distance ahead I watched Michael coast down the short hill and pass through an “uncontrolled” intersection with no stop signs, at the bottom.  Suddenly a car driven by a local well-known plumber, John C. Dorsey, came through the intersection from the left and struck Michael on his bicycle.  I still remember vividly the sound of his bike as it broke into pieces and watching Michael’s body thrown across the street and fall to the lawn of a corner house.

I slammed on my brakes and surveyed the scene.  I could hardly breathe and was momentarily overwhelmed with the sights and sounds of those few seconds.  As a neighbor and Mr. Dorsey rushed to Michael’s aid I turned around and rode as fast as I could to his house, back up the hill on Rittenhouse and making a right turn onto 48th Avenue.  A block later as I turned left, onto our street, I passed Michael’s five-year old sister Sandy at the corner and shouted to her as I passed, “Michael’s been hit by a car!”  Climbing the stairs to their front porch I pounded on the open screen door and shouted inside repeating to his parents what I had just told Sandy moments before.  His dad rushed out the door and leaped from their porch yelling frantically “Where? Where?”  I said “Down the hill on Rittenhouse Street!”   I struggled on my bike to keep up with Michael’s father as he ran like a racehorse to his son’s side.  Michael’s mother arrived soon behind as I watched from a short distance away.

It’s a horrific scene I will never forget; to see the terrible panic those young parents suffered in their attempt to protect and comfort their young son as they waited for aid to arrive.  In later years, having experienced and understanding the joys of being a father myself, I can only imagine the horror and fear that they suddenly faced that awful, dreadful day.  I stayed nearby and watched as Michael was given first aid and rushed into the ambulance that transported him to Prince George’s General Hospital.  With neighbors I would help gather pieces of his shattered and bent bicycle and saw small patches of bright, red blood-stained grass.  Then, sick to my stomach and bewildered, I rode my bike home alone to an empty apartment, while my mother was away at work, and cried myself to sleep.

In the early morning hours of the next day, on Monday May 1, 1961, Michael died of head and internal injuries.  He was only seven and a half years old.  I recall my mother and I, an evening or two later, visiting the local Chamber’s Funeral home and seeing Michael’s lifeless body in the small satin-lined casket.  Wearing a dark suit his hair was neatly combed and rosary beads draped in his hands.  In front sat an altar where family and friends of his Catholic faith knelt and said their silent prayers.  It was hard for me as a young impressionable boy to deal with the reality, the loss and finality that scene contained.  It was my first experience of such a grim and sad occasion that is forever etched in my memory.  There were no grief counselors at school in those days, so I was left to my own means to deal with what was a very troubling, personal event.  Even today, as I recall the details of those days, it’s always an emotional experience.

Within days I would be interviewed by police and later by lawyers, and in time would testify in court about my memories of that day.  Charges of failing to reduce speed to avoid a collision were made against Mr. Dorsey but with court delays I never did hear about the outcome.  Eighteen months later we would move from that apartment building and I would never see the Casamentos again.  From time-to-time I come across the name of the Casamento family whose members for years remained in the Clearfield area.

To my way of thinking it’s a sad reminder to know that the intersection where Michael lost his life, and the houses that once stood nearby, no longer exist.  All except for one that is.  Even the short stretch of street along 48th Avenue, between Rittenhouse and Ravenswood is no longer there.  Only a metal guardrail and a concrete barrier mark where the street once was.  What was once a quiet neighborhood corner was — for the most part — obliterated by a widened road and a new overpass for what became an extension of the very busy East West Highway or state highway 410.  In the fall of 2007 I saw Michael’s house and those very same steps I climbed to the porch so many years before.  The apartment building where I once lived remains there as well.  The one thing that survived all the changes brought on by that construction project are a single house and a small patch of lawn in front.  It is the same lawn where Michael lay so long ago broken, bleeding and dying.  It is still there and is a stark reminder of that spring day.  All are part of my first childhood memories, the good times as well as the bad.

Throughout my life since that day in 1961, with the coming of each and every spring season, and often many times between, I’m reminded of that event that happened fifty-one years ago today.  I often wonder, what happened to the Casamento family and would I one day see my friend Michael again?

Update – April 2013

I’m happy to report that I was contacted last year by the Casamento family through a similar posting I had submitted on Ancestry.com.  Despite my apprehensions of renewing memories they may have wanted to long forget I learned that family members were anxious to talk with me.  They had never forgotten Michael’s friend.  The boy they often invited into their home who shared peanut butter and jelly sandwiches with their son.  The same one who had been with him on that fateful day.

I’ve had several choice telephone conversations with Michael’s mother and sister Sandy.  Michael’s mom said it “was like a miracle” that I had been trying to contact them after so many years.  In an email Sandy wrote to me the following.

It makes my Mom and I happy to know that Mickey’s life is remembered by someone other than our family.  After reading the story, which I cherish, my Mom and I had such an emotional time. Since I was so young when it happened, I really never grieved.  I remembered missing him and wanting to look at his photo, but after reading the story, I cried for weeks.  We have shared your story with so many family members and friends, and all have been brought to tears, by the sadness of my brother’s death and also by the sadness that you have carried through your lifetime.

To say the least this has been a wonderful, touching, emotional and extraordinary reunion after the passage of more than 50 years.

Interestingly Michael has a nephew who bears his name living here in the Seattle area.  But with all that has recently transpired my one regret is that Michael’s father unfortunately passed away just six weeks prior to the publication of this story and I did not have the opportunity to speak to him.  John Casamento was 84 years old and was buried on the very day this blog was originally published, May 1, 2012 next to his son at Gate of Heaven Cemetery in Silver Spring, Maryland.

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18 comments on “Fifty-One Years Ago Today: A Personal Memory

  1. A very well written story. Reading it for the second time to make sure I didn’t miss anything, it struck me that had you not stopped to tighten your buckle, you might have been right there beside Michael. I guess we have all had times when we’ve come upon an accident and thought, “Wow, if I had left on time, or if this or that hadn’t happened, I might have been involved.”

    • Rick Gleason says:

      Joyce,

      Thank you for your visit and especially for your comment.

      The same thought has often occurred to me as well. I guess we all have our appointed times. I am one who does not fear death, nor is it a mystery and although I believe there are worse things than dying, I’m still happy to remain here.

      Thoughts and seeds for yet another blog! Thanks and I hope we’ll hear from you again!

  2. Rick Gleason says:

    Thank you so much Ron. Coming from you, a proven, successful author — and for many other reasons — I am humbled and grateful for all your praise. It means a lot.

  3. Ron Susek says:

    Great wraparound, Rick. One of the finest gifts in life is to dip one’s pen into the ink of nostalgia and recreate a treasury of memories with the artistry of words. You are an artist of words–a wordsmith. What makes it powerful is that you are not using words to create fantasy, but rather to take us to the places in life that shaped what we are. Proud of you! RRS

  4. Pat Errigo says:

    Rick, I enjoyed your story. You never forget good friends that have left a mark in your lives. I have several good friends that have passed. I think of them often.

  5. oldereyes says:

    So, I’m curious, Rick. Do you think witnessing death at such an early age affected you as an adult? The reason I ask is that I once read of an Native American sorcerer who believed that every child should be taken to see the body of a child. He believed that comprehending death at an early age made it more difficult to take waste what time we have.

    My first bike, by the way, was a red Columbia. Some friends and I rode to the movies and we always parked out bike in front of the police station, since no one would steal them there. Someone did.

    • Rick Gleason says:

      The realization of how short and precious life really is didn’t come until much later in life, but with that said, this event definitely had an impact on my life in ways I may never fully appreciate and as you might be able to tell has never escaped me.

      Thanks for your continued readership Oldereyes.

      Rick

  6. Hey, Rick. I remember you’ve told me this story before… or maybe you’ve written about it. I don’t remember. But it’s just as potent now as it was the 1st time I heard it. Only difference this time, is that I knew it was going to have a tragic ending. I’m sure that you will see Michael again, in Heaven. What a potent reminder of how we should cherish the time we have with the people we love around us, because life never guarantees us our next breath, & we never know when they’ll be suddenly gone, without warning.

  7. I felt like I was there and came away with a heavy heart.

  8. Jeni Hill Ertmer says:

    Boy, Rick – It’s been a long time since I saw a post from you. I was getting worried that something happened to you or that you had quit blogging. Glad you’re back though. This post was really heart-wrenching to read and easy to understand why the memory of that day remains so vividly with you too.

    • Rick Gleason says:

      Jeni,

      Yes, I’ve been out of the mix for a while and now that my laptop has gone “belly-up” it may be a while before I’ll get back on a regular blogging schedule… but thanks to the local WorkSource office and the library I can get on the ‘Net every once-in-a-while. Thank you for your continued interest and for your comments.

      Rick

  9. Judy Ditmore says:

    Every story you write relating to your childhood always sends me back in time.

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