Happy is harder than money.
Anyone who thinks money will make them happy, doesn’t have money.
~~ David Geffen ~~
I once had a plaque on my den wall that read: He who dies with the most toys, wins! Another displayed nearby said: The difference between men and boys is the price of their toys. One is definitely true while the other is most definitely not. Can you guess which one? I don’t know what’s happened to those wall hangings, I haven’t seen them in a long time. But like most things of material value they can be easily lost, even forgotten.
As a young father years ago struggling to make a living and hoping for financial independence I gave up a lot to work many of the jobs I once gave a big part of my life to. I held very few positions where I wasn’t required to work nights, weekends and holidays. I would often miss many extended family events, holidays and birthdays, even a few vacations etc.. I often reflect on how much is too much and what sacrifices must some pay in that struggle to get ahead?
There’s a lot to be said for the advice do what you love and you won’t work a day in your life. I would only add: so long as the price you pay isn’t greater than what you or your family can bear. Make sure that ladder of success you climb is leaning against the right wall and taking you where you really want to go. Make sure your sights aren’t firmly planted on what will lead you toward a world of flimsy, easily broken dreams…
A Boulevard of Broken Dreams
I walk a lonely road
The only one that I have ever known
Don’t know where it goes
But it’s home to me and I walk alone
I walk this empty street
On the Boulevard of Broken Dreams
When the city sleeps
And I’m the only one and I walk alone
My shadow’s the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart’s the only thing that’s beating
Sometimes I wish someone out there will find me
’til then I walk alone*
Our children and our spouses need us at home. Mothers aren’t exempt and for parents raising a family is the most important work we could ever do. There are few do-overs allowed in these important matters.
Evangelist Billy Graham recently wrote:
Our society places too much emphasis on money, implying that financial achievement is the main measure of a person’s true success in life. But this is a false standard and we must resist falling into the trap of thinking that money is everything…. Just make sure that money is your servant and not your master. ~~ Nearing Home, pp. 59-60
*Lyrics from Green Day’s A Boulevard of Broken Dreams.