There’s a lot of unhappiness around the world. Have you noticed? We see it most anywhere we go. Just last Saturday I saw it on the face of an older woman at a restaurant. It was heart-wrenching. Of course I don’t know what brought her such displeasure but as she spoke to the two men sitting with her she wept and hung her head low with her gaze down, hardly able to look up. It went on for quite a while. One of her companions made efforts to reassure her, gently reaching out, patting her on the hand and arm, speaking to her in whispered tones. The other just sat and listened. When she would look up I could see the pain etched in her face and in some bizaar way I felt her pain as well (Bill Clinton jokes aside). I felt pity for this woman, I almost want to cry as I write about it. I can relate to that kind of pain and while I sat across the room and watched I wanted to go to her aid. I wanted to tell her everything will be okay. Of course I don’t know that, but words of support and encouragement can go a long ways, even sometimes from a stranger.
Hopefully we don’t have a lot of unhappiness in our own lives or in our homes among our immediate family. You’re lucky if you don’t sense it in the lives of your extended family or your friends. Can everyone be happy? I may come across in this blog as having it all-together — a happy fellow — but those who really know me know otherwise. True, I’m not a completely happy person. I honestly don’t know if I’ve ever been. I have regrets and things trouble me that I wish I had done better. There are the sins of commission as well as omission. I’ve certainly had many happy moments but a life of happiness has escaped me. Not much one can do about the past, only look to the future. Make things better, the best we can.
I came across an interesting blog last week entitled 12 Things Happy People Do Differently. It’s from the web site Marc and Angel Hack Life, Practical tips for Productive Living. After reading it I thought to myself: Self, there’s a LOT of truth here! I decided I would read again each of the twelve habits mentioned and then write a blog about how I’m doing. Afterall I thought, just 12 habits I could adopt to set me apart on the road to happy? How hard could that be? My decision to do this publicly (warm subject) is an exercise in self-awareness. Maybe too it’ll find a receptive place in the hearts of my friends. Maybe three you’ll be able to use it to your own and your loved-one’s advantage. A check-list of sorts. Spread the word!
The 12 Things Happy People Do Differently came from the words of Jacob Sokol who we are told is committed to living an extraordinary life. Here’s the link. Check out the 12 habits and read the brief meanings behind each. It’ll help clarify their importance and in some cases help bring sense to my assessment of how I’m doin’ that will follow in my next post. Read 12 Things first, then come back to me. Clear as mud? K e w l !
Thanks for stopping in. See you in Part 2 … on the road to Happy!